I have been away from my blog for a while....I am so sad to have to say why. One of my dearest friends son's passed away on Friday morning. I had called her to check in with her and she told me the news.I have spent a lot of time with her the past weekend.This was not expected, he was 22 years old. I follow a few blogs of ladies that have lost a child. Some lost during pregnancy, shortly after birth or in childhood. I know you can relate to my friend. It is such a new and raw loss. If you have any advice or resources I would love to have them to pass along to her or to help her in any way I can. While I have suffered loss(lost my mom 19years ago) I have not lost a child. The services are tomorrow, but I am so worried about my friend. She has not slept for days now and has eaten very little. I pray that she can stay healthy and strong for her family. She also has 3 younger boys. This timing is not ideal(but when is a death ever ideal timing?) her next son is graduating next week. Yes, our schools do not get out for summer until middle of next week. Many of you are probably wondering how this happened....I do not have too many details, but they think he had a drug overdose. So SO sad. Hug your kiddies and be there for them and ask a lot of questions always...life is so precious and can be taken at any time. There are never any guarantees.
While we are talking about teenagers and some of the "worry" with teenagers, I do not believe in driving and talking on the cell or texting. I watched Oprah several months ago and also other studies and driving and cell phones for talking or texting is not a good mix, especially for newer drivers and teenagers. I have signed a contract as have my teenagers. Please think about signing this contract. It will make the roads safer for all of us....
So....I am ready for summer, ready for a change of pace, ready for the hotter weather and days by the pool and beach and with friends. Heather at Blessed Little Nest is getting us ready for summer! Thanks Heather http://www.blessedlittlenest.com/. She has guest hosts and lots of giveaways, so go visit....you'll be glad you did....
If I were better techie I would put the button for Heather's summer guide on here....anyone care to help me on that one? Thanks
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Wow. SO sorry to hear about your friend. I'll pray for her right now.
ReplyDeleteValerie, it is so good for you to be there with her. Often people don't know what to say or do after the death of a loved one, They often don't spend time with the ones left behind, which is what they need the most.
ReplyDeleteI'll say a prayer right now for you both. And those boys who lost thier brother.
Love from,
Greta
I am so sorry to hear this. :( I will be keeping your friend in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteoh Valerie I am so sorry to hear this. I lost my older brother and my mom lost her first born son when I was 19 and he was 29. It was devastating to the whole family, and my mom has never been the same since. Of course she has recovered in many ways, but she was not left unscathed. Just be there for her and follow her lead. if she needs to talk, go over and listen. if she needs space, then give it to her. other than that there is not much more you can do but just hold her hand and pray...it is something she is going to have to come to terms with in her own way.
ReplyDeleteoh valerie. the best advice i can give you is to reach out to your friends family and help them while she is in the midst of this. bring food, launder clothes, buy groceries. whatever you can think of. the other thing is to mention getting help from a doctor, pastor, or counselor. going onto medication for a short period of time so she can begin to cope is so helpful. i went onto medication for a short period of time after losing samuel and it helped me a lot. it doens't take away the pain, but it makes it easier to absorb it so you can work through it. your friend will never be the same so don't expect her to be, but with love and help from God she can have a new life that can be really, really beautiful.
ReplyDeletetake care! you are an amazing person for standing by her side!!
hello my sweet! here is the link to a support group that is run by parents who have lost children - I'm almost certain that there is a local chapter that your friend can access when she is ready
ReplyDeletehttp://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx
i hope this brings her a little comfort...